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Soft skills Trainer and Education Manager

How to Measure Your Emotional Intelligence (EQ)

January 7, 2024 By Olesia Ulianova

There’s no single universal test that can perfectly capture your emotional intelligence.
The best way to understand your EQ level is to observe your own behavior — especially under pressure.

Emotional intelligence shows itself not in what we know, but in how we respond — to conflict, feedback, change, and other people’s emotions.

🧩 You Might Have a Low EQ If You Often…

  • Take things personally and hold grudges.
    You find it hard to forgive and move on, replaying negative interactions in your mind.
  • Feel misunderstood.
    You frequently think, “They just don’t get me,” and struggle to express your thoughts clearly or read others’ cues.
  • Struggle to manage stress.
    Pressure quickly overwhelms you, leading to irritability, fatigue, or withdrawal.
  • Can’t identify what you’re feeling — or why.
    Emotions seem random or uncontrollable, making it hard to understand your triggers.
  • Criticize others and argue without resolution.
    Conversations turn into debates rather than collaborations, leaving tension behind.
  • Resist change.
    You feel anxious when things shift and need extra time to adjust to new circumstances or environments.

🧭 The Takeaway

Emotional intelligence isn’t a fixed trait — it’s a skill that can be developed.
Start by noticing your emotional reactions, how they influence your behavior, and how others respond to you.

Every moment of awareness is a data point — a way to measure, understand, and strengthen your EQ.

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Olesia Ulianova

Ph.D., MBA, CEO of Telesens, Founder of IT Grow Center (ITGC)

I am a trainer, coach, and leader with over 15 years of experience at the intersection of technology, management, and people development.

My mission is to help leaders and teams become more effective, adaptable, and self-aware in a world that changes every single day.

🔹 Ph.D. in Technical Sciences and General MBA — a combination of systems thinking and strategic management.
🔹 CEO of Telesens — over a decade of experience in IT business development, organizational transformation, and building high-performance teams.
🔹 Founder of IT Grow Center (ITGC) — a space where future managers, trainers, and leaders grow.
🔹 MBA in Business Psychology — a deep understanding of human behavior, motivation, and management psychology that helps build mature teams and lead change effectively.
🔹 Author of the “Antimanager. Soft Skills Guideline” series — a trilogy on personal development, communication, and leadership.
🔹 Member of the International Association of MBAs (UK)
🔹 Certified Coach (ACSTH/ACTP) and former USAID mentor.

 

My approach is built on a simple belief:

“Everything is possible. The impossible just takes a little longer.”

I believe that growth begins with an honest dialogue with yourself, and actual effectiveness starts with inner balance.

In my blog, I share practical tools, transformation stories, and proven methods that help managers and leaders act consciously, avoid burnout, and achieve more — both in business and in life

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